Sunday, December 20, 2009
It Has Arrived
Wednesday, December 2, 2009
I AM WOMAN...Hear Me Roar
Yes, I am woman...hear me roar! I can...AND HAVE...done more than I ever have thought I could do in a 24 hour time period...I have done things that I don't want to do again...I have done things that, quite honestly, are making me pretty frickin tired!
Here is Kristin's Top 10 Things That She Has Done That She Didn't Know She Could...Or...She Doesn't Want to Have to Repeat (So Josh, you'd better heal quickly and get back on your feet, because this woman is roaring...loud!)
- Take the trash out...in the dark...in the rain...in the cold...
- Help her husband pee in a modified milk jug...
- Make dinner...one for Josh, another for Leah and Logan, and then mine...WTF? I don't cook!
- Fix a toilet...I shoved my hand in a tank...OMG!
- Clean a fish tank...with fish poop in it!
- Wake up early...just to have grumpy girls greet me to this lovely day...
- Clean up dog pee...lots of dog pee...not to mention take the dogs out every 20 minutes...why do they pee so much??? Oh yeah, and scoop poop from the yard! Lots of poop!
- Grocery Shopping...I know, I'm spoiled. But HOLY SH!T, I hate that job!
- Dishes...can't we just use our hands and eat from the can, really now!
- Did I mention I had to help Josh PEE IN A JUG?!?!?!
But being the WOMAN of the house has some up sides to it too! I have had a blast with the girls. At first, I felt like I really had to re-establish my authority with them. Daddy has always been the one who can play with them then immediately be the "Heavy". Not Mommy, I'm the Lover!!! The kissy, kissy, lovey, lovey! Well, not when Daddy's out of commission. I had to take an authoritative role and that was interesting for a bit! But now, we've got it under control and times are fun with just us girls! We roll on the floor, we laugh and make silly faces...girl stuff!
Anyway, I've figured out that I've got this woman of the house thing licked...no problem! But I also figured out that I miss my best friend as he lays in his man-cave healing his pole-dancing wound!!!
Monday, November 9, 2009
Leah's Latest
Well, I wanted to take the blog back to it's roots and give you an update on Riley and Leah. Fun, eh?
Riley passed all of his CGC (Canine Good Citizen) and Service Dog tests without fail...I still say the most difficult ones were having a wheelchair intentionally run over his puffy white tail without him moving and then him having to lay next to a nice, piping hot plate of food without creeping closer to it or sniffing it! Can your dog do that?! Riley can! Then Riley went to school with Leah, using all of his Autism Assistance Dog skills that he was trained for, for over a year. During that year, Leah continued to have sensory defensiveness (didn't like the feel of) toward his fur or his wet nose or his scratchy paws. Leah just has never liked the fact that Riley is an unpredictable creature...not to mention that he feels funny too!!!
Within the same year, we initiated a very intense home ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis) program with Leah. This is just good old teaching with very specific objectives. But it's very intense...up to 4 hours a day in our home as well as going to preschool! Well, let me tell you something...ABA works...and Leah doesn't need the assistance of her assistance dog anymore!!! We still take him out with us so his skills are kept in tact, but with the intense work that she's done for 9 months, we've relinquished the use of Riley at school for her and she is doing AWESOME!!! Her language is moving in the right direction, her play and social skills are increasing...she's becoming more typical each day! The Doctors that we work with out of Kalamazoo actually have questioned us if she really has autism!!! That's a lot of work, if you know how she was when we started all of this therapy!
One thing that I said I would always hesitate to do is to take Leah to a DAN Doctor. For all of you non-autism people, a DAN is a Defeat Autism Now! Doctor. This doctor believes that he/she can treat autism biomedically. I don't believe that it can be completely treated nor (obviously) cured, but I wold like to look into some of the aspects of the treatments. The reason: I always said I would consider a DAN if Leah hit a plateau. I feel she has hit a plateau in her sensory needs and eye contact...she shy's away from looking at people and she is constantly on the move and wiggling as well as banging her hands and fluffing stuff! This has been since the day she could sit up...and she's 4 1/2 now...that's a plateau if I've ever been on one! So, I'm not looking to make miracles...but I need to look behind a door that I just haven't opened for her!
Overall, Leah has made tremendous developmental growth. She is a beautiful, happy and talkative girl! She loves music, dancing, her sister...and of course suckers! She's an amazing piece of this family. Our family just wouldn't be as happy and full without all of the special things she brings to us each and every moment that she does! Someone asked me a long time ago if I wish she didn't have autism or I regret the situation. My answer: NOPE! If Leah didn't have autism, she wouldn't be the Leah we know and love and kiss and cuddle and are learning right along side of!!! Thank God for Leah!
Saturday, October 24, 2009
A Bulleted List of our Week
- We got a new puppy!!!! His given name was "TIM"...OMG! But I couldn't take it...he's now better known as "Murphy"!
- Logan was put on antibiotics for a sinus infection
- Josh was put on antibiotics for a sinus infection
- Leah has the sniffles and sneezes today...no fever, but her antibiotic is waiting at the pharmacy
- Kristin had a another week from hell at her horrific and misreable job...can you say, WTF? Yes, I've applied for 2 jobs this week too!
- Leah has been referred to a Geneticist for an increasing number of cafe' au lait spots on her body
- Preschool was cancelled on Friday due to the Swine Flu throughout DeWitt Public Schools
- My Grandma Kohls was hospitalized with sudden blindness and is having a temporal biopsy today (prayers please)
I think that's enough, don't you! My goodness...and I wonder why I have difficulty sleeping or concentrating some times!!!! I know, breathe in and breathe out...meditate...pray! God gave me so many good things in this life, I just need to focus on those and reflect MORE on those! I think I tried to do that once upon a time in this blog...didn't last long! The overwhelming seems to invade my positive thinking! The power of positive thinking and prayer........
Sunday, October 18, 2009
An Uneventful Update
The last time we updated we told you that we were 16th on the list for a singleton girl and 8th on the list for twins, either girl-girl or girl-boy. Wellllllll, we don't have any new info on this....soooooo, we could very well still be 16th and 8th or we could be bumped up! Who knows!
The frustrating thing with this lack of information is that we have asked over and over for information from our agency and we have been given blanket statements about our case. We don't need OR DESERVE blanket statements from the agency who we have worked with for so many months and also have completed a successful adoption of two beautiful girls!!!! You ask, what is a blanket statement? "Your case is being monitored and we are reviewing your documents." We've got an answer similar to this several times!!!!!!
The other component of our update is that we have requested our agency look into if there is a child who is deaf or hard of hearing that meets our home study eligibility criteria. This means is there a little girl, age 0-18 months, who has a hearing loss, or is there a child in that age range that is one in a twin set. So, we are open to a special needs adoption as this is my area of expertise and I really feel that my heart and mind is ready and prepared for parenting another child with special needs. I believe that God has put me here to do this...this is my purpose. BUT, our agency can't seem to answer the question if this is a possibility or not and if there is a child available currently or if we wait! SO FRUSTRATING!!!! I just need some answers about OUR CASE...it's OUR information!!!
Once we get any information, we will share it with you...but for now, this is our update!
Sunday, October 11, 2009
At the Dentist
Saturday, September 12, 2009
The Knight's Love SMB
Saturday, August 29, 2009
Our Ethiopian Journey...
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Something's Off...
Monday, August 10, 2009
Adoption Update
We've been rolling along our path of document collection, notary signatures, references, social worker visits and all that jazz. You know, all of the stuff that comes with adoption! We're good with that! Fine and dandy! Naturally, along with all of these time consuming and nit-picky activities, we forked over a few thousand! Also an expected part of the journey!
One hitch...one of the "fees" in these payments was called a "supplemental fee". Yep, like we're not paying enough to build a family, but we get to pay a supplemental fee! So we complained to the executive director, she bit our heads off, la-de-da-de-da, we paid the freaking fee! What's another bill?!?!?!
Definition - "Supplemental fee" = "keep the agency above water during a bad economy" fee!!!!
Well, the state of MI, thanks much in part to the media, feels that the "fee" is not really a fee and it is a contribution...where it is illegal for adoption agencies to accept contributions from families who are in the process of an adoption!!!!
Definition of "fee" by agency does not = definition by state & media!!!! WHOOPS!!!
Result of disagreement of definitions...state of MI investigation and a 6 month license for the agency to conduct regular business and fix their problems.
Result for the Knight family...Confusion!!!! We are unsure if the agency will be a viable company in 6 months as their license could be revoked after that point! We are unsure if we can get our money back if they go under!! We are unsure if we will bring a child home with this agency because of this silly "supplemental fee"!!!
So now what...
The State has 1 1/2 weeks to respond to the agency regarding their license. At that point in time, we will be nearly ready to send our dossier to Ethiopia and have our named placed on the waiting list to receive a referral of a little girl. We are hoping and PRAYING that this has been blown out of proportion by the media!!!! At this time, we are planning on continuing with the adoption with this agency. We do have an email into the MI A.G. to check on the status of the investigation just to cover our backsides...money is one thing, but bringing home Baby Ella is another!!!!
I'm sure you are all confused as ever right now...sorry...here is the link from the Grand Rapids news to make this as clear as mud!!! :)
http://www.woodtv.com/dpp/news/local/ottawa_county/Adoption_agency_cited_for_violations
Just hope and pray that this is just one of those bumps in the journey...one of those forks in the road!
Wednesday, August 5, 2009
Wednesday...
Tutus - Hand-me-downs (I'm cheap, who can blame me?)
Somersaults, over and over and over and over on the living room floor? - PRICELESS
Monday, August 3, 2009
Monday...I am grateful for...
I took a late afternoon nap so Josh watched the girls and fed them a wholesome dinner! Then they were outside playing with the neighborhood kids! All in an effort to allow me to rest!! What a guy!!!
I finally awoke to come downstairs to an empty house...silence! :( Sadness! I missed the girls all day because they were at childcare and then I missed them all night because they were outside and I was resting. (You do what you gotta do!)
Eventually everyone came inside and we all sat down for a lovely PBS program of Curious George! It's Kids Week on PBS so there are prime time kids shows this week. We were all sitting together and Leah wanted tickles from Daddy, like she so often wants! So Daddy got his tickle fingers going and the laughter filled our home! Then Logan got to laughing with those two and I sat back and enjoyed the sound of love, fun, and pure bliss!
Remember...it's the little things!
Sunday, August 2, 2009
So Much to be Grateful For...
Our family has went through a few losses this summer. My dad's best friend past away unexpectedly, my great aunt passed after a long battle with cancer, and just last week one of my very best friends' mom passed from a long battle pancreatic cancer. When I look at my immediate and extended family, I have so much to be thankful for and to be grateful for! Not only the BIG things like our general health (I say that loosely with all of my idiotic and numerous issues), our general financial stability (again, stating it loosely!!), our happiness as a FAMILY and with MYSELF! But for the little things...
So, if I can continue to find the time when I head back into the swing of life as a full-time everything, and not being a bed-resting, non-cleaning, pill-popping chicka, I want to post little things that I am grateful for.
Like...
Today, Logan came bounding up the stairs after everyone let me sleep in (a regular occurrence on the weekend) and gently tip-toed up to the side my bed and said, "Momma, you're waking up now." Period. *Notice that wasn't a question, rather it was a declarative statement.* So, I lumbered out of bed and loafed downstairs to find two adorned princesses watching their beloved "Tom and Jerry". My Prince was cleaning the kitchen and washing dishes! I poured myself a mug of steaming hot java and my princesses smothered me! AAAHHH!!! We all then decided it's a beautiful day to go outside to enjoy the morning. So we slipped on our shoes and donned our flip-flops and the girls went to dust the world with the sand from their sand box and swirl the fresh morning dew from the slide with their four year old ambition, all while Josh and I sat together sipping coffee on the covered porch, petting Riley! I AM GRATEFUL FOR THIS MORNING! It was a simple morning but something I remember doing as a young girl...I'm grateful to my parents for giving me this memory!
Overall, I just need to look at the small things...that's life, right? I don't want to miss life! It's too short to miss it! It's not always the BIG moments and the LONG trips and the EXPENSIVE things we do is it? It's the little things that add up and I need to capture those!!!!
Wednesday, July 29, 2009
More on Summer...
The Sunset We Know and Love
Monday, July 13, 2009
Logan and Mom Bond...
So last night I pulled out her Life Book, something I made just weeks after we brought them home on their Gotcha Days. I read this to her and she was intrigued with her baby pictures from Guatemala, more details of her birth story and information on her birth mother! Yesterday was the first time that we talked about her birth mother! We've always talked about Mama Karla and Papa Isai, their foster parents, but their birth mother was not appropriate to talk about yet! But last night Logan and Mommy really talked about her birth story! It was an emotional moment for me...but Logan was elated!!!! I will now teach her and talk to her, and Leah when she's ready, more and more!!!
***I posted this so all of you adoptive moms and dads know that it was a 'moment'!!! Haha!!!
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Just Being an Advocate...
I wanted to share with all of you that the State of Michigan is approaching passing its Autism Insurance Bill. It recently passed the House and now the Bill is in committee within the Senate. I am asking that each of you, within the State, to call your Senator and ask them to support the Autism Insurance Bill.
If you don't know, this kind of bill (if passed into law) would allow families with children with autism to seek Applied Behavior Analysis intervention for their child and have the service covered up to $50,000 annually up to age 26. Yes, folks...it's all out of pocket right now! But it's so worth it! But imagine what our life could be if the insurance company stepped up to the plate and covered Autism...and actually stopped discriminating against individuals with the diagnosis. That's all it is folks...discrimination! Just because Leah (and others) has that diagnosis...no speech, no OT, no ABA, nothing! If she were deaf, with CP, with DS...covered!!
Okay...off my soap box! Here's a new PSA that has been put out by Autism Speaks...just FYI!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7rVX_nSLFtg&feature=player_embedded
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Summertime at the Knight's
It's been a great month...sorry to not have kept you in the loop! Let me lasso you in on the happenings!
We returned home from Disney World after 10 straight days of rain in Florida. Yes, that's what I said...10 STRAIGHT days of rain, storms, wind, and YUCK! Florida had experienced drought months prior to our splendid arrival...alas the Knight family showed up...FLOOD! So be it! We accomplished what we set out to do and that was to have the girls in awe every day...Princesses, Mickey, Minnie, spinny rides (minus daddy) and the whole ten yards. We even experienced first class flights both down and back...uh-huh!!!! :)
We returned home to head back to work, finish up school and go back to "normal" for all of 2 weeks or so, then it was time for a Tinkerbell Party to celebrate two little girls 4th birthdays!!!! Can you believe it...4 years old!?!?!?!? AARGH! All winter the girls have been begging and pleading to go to the cottage to fishing to "catch the big one, blue one". So instead of any kind of party or shin-dig, we hauled the family up north to the family cottage at Higgins and had a beautiful weekend at the lake. We fished...caught 60 in one outing (but no blue ones...hmmmmm!), swam, played on the beach, and had a mini-Tinkerbell party with Mema and Papa as well as Great Grandma and Grandpa. The girls share Great Grandpa's birthday...just 80 years apart...so it is an extra special day! Girls were overjoyed with it being their special day...now Logan is asking if it's her birthday "tomorrow?" Haha!!!!
Moving along in June, we then headed into the summer schedule. Leah is continuing on her intense home therapy program as well as speech therapy. If you haven't been around this little girl in a while, you can't even begin to imagine the changes in her. Two words: simply amazing!!! Logan and I are working hard at playing hard while Leah is working with her home teachers. We've gotten in a few good rounds of Barbies and pretend store!!!! Oh yeah!!!
And just this past weekend Josh and I took a step in the direction of growing up...we let the girls out of our sights overnight...2 nights in fact!!! Mema and Papa took the girls back up north for a few days and nights while Josh whisked me away to an Anniversary Weekend in Chicago! It was great!!!! 90 minute massage in a fancy salon, yummy food, shopping on the strip! Then a 7 hour trip back to see my girls!!!! (Oh yeah...and my parents too! Tehe!!!)
Now we are on a mission to let summer ride!!! Let the good times roll with swimming in the little pool that we have for the girls, play in the sand, eat Popsicles and have picnics! So, give us a call or just stop by!!!! It's summertime!!!!