Monday, November 8, 2010

Step by Step

Things are getting better! Little by little, step by step, minute by minute. As said, things can't be pulled from the air for anyone.

Ella has to learn to trust us. And it's starting. She likes to try to hide it yet...but there are now signs that she is trusting us (me) and that she is liking the fact that we are her parents. There are glimpses! That's a great thing!

On the other end of the attachment equation, I'm making great strides too. I'm reflecting personally. Another step in the right direction. But just the simple act of self-reflection has made me open my eyes that I'm taking everything so (too!) personally when the meltdowns occur...or when the whining begins as soon as we walk in the door. She's not trying to make me upset...that's not her goal! I recognize this now...thanks to my amazing chat with my amazing friend!

I've had a lot of people come to me and say, "wow!!!" Yeah, this isn't easy stuff! But for all of you families that are in the process...this is for you...or for you that are just home...maybe for you to know you aren't alone. I find that I have found healing for my family by "talking" about this. Friends, don't feel sorry for us...we're making our way to each other faster through this process than I ever expected. We're okay...Amen!

My next post will be on a much more upbeat note...an update on all the kids! We had a big weekend this past weekend...get ready for some pics and posts!


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